Whatever your sexuality, dealing with a sex drought in a long-term relationship can be really tough. I mean, society has even given us our own special term for when the sex has dried up - Lesbian Bed Death! Sounds ominous, right? LBD is the notion that somehow, after being in a long-term relationship, lesbian and same-sex couples have wayyyy less sex than they used to. A sex drought can happen for a number of reasons, Meg-John explains. Nothing different between lesbian relationships and mixed-sex relationships there then!
13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex
13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren't Having (More) Sex | Autostraddle
In reality, only Also, sex is fun, and having fun with your partner is always a good idea! But damn, ladies, the odds are really stacked against us! Lesbian sex can absolutely be brief as well, but it usually tends not to be. Some researchers have theorized that although lesbians have sex less often, we may not be spending less time having sex. Not that orgasm is the end-all be-all of sex, but it is a focus for many people, which means sex requires finding and setting aside more time.
Long Term Lesbian Relationship Success
Even the most "out," politically aware women can internalize these messages subconsciously and continue to believe, on some level, that our relationships are neither valuable nor viable. This is why we need to fight, on a political level, to have our relationships recognized as valid -- legally, financially, socially, and spiritually. Meanwhile, on a personal level, here are some ideas about how lesbians who want commitment can overcome the obstacles that homophobia creates. But try starting with the assumption that your problems CAN be worked out.
Lesbian bed death is the concept that lesbian couples in committed relationships have less sex than any other type of couple the longer the relationship lasts, and generally experience less sexual intimacy as a consequence. The concept is based on research by social psychologist Philip Blumstein and sociologist Pepper Schwartz , published in American Couples: Money, Work, Sex , which found that lesbian couples reported lower numbers when asked "About how often during the last year have you and your partner had sex relations? Subsequently, scholars have regarded it as a popular myth. Pepper Schwartz is credited as coining the term lesbian bed death. The questionnaire covered various aspects of their relationship such as work, sex, children, finances, and decision-making.